Sunday, February 22, 2009

facebook confessions

I have a confession to make. I love facebook. And I feel judged about it. Yup, I do. There's a lot of critical talk about facebook out there!!
So, here is my I-am-a-fan-of-facebook plug.

Facebook chat? LOVE IT. Maybe if I'd have ever gotten on the MSN bus, I wouldn't be so enamored with FB chat. But seriously!? FB chats are so good for staying in touch! Recently, I've had some great conversations about giving birth, nursing babies, snowball fights, good books being read, and really big decisions - some of those chats probaly happened simultaneously!

Photos? LOVE IT. I like knowing a little more about my nieces and nephews! I love getting an idea of what makes them tick in ways that would never happen over turkey and cranberry sauce at grandma's house. When you can't be really close to family, FB sure helps you to know one another better. And being able to see photos of family gatherings you weren't at, friends' kids growing up way too fast... call me crazy, but I think its a gift.

Notes? LOVE IT. I think its so much fun that those random notes about ourselves, our kids, our memories - seem to be all the rage right now. I like learning more about my friends! Plus, they give me something to read when I'm chatting...

Groups? LOVE IT. I have a group with my sisters where we talk about tons of stuff. Some mundane, some important. It is very awesome. Except Lisa is a slacker, so many posts end with - where the heck is Lisa?! FB groups are good.

Status updates? Well, I could likely live without them. But sometimes, they help us to know little tidbits about our friends... and sometimes they help us to pray for each other. And sometimes they're just plain hilarious.

There you have it.

Tuesday, February 17, 2009

good families and diversity

a friend made a comment the other day about being glad that his daughter was dating someone from a good family. Call me crazy, but it struck me as odd. What constitutes a good family, anyway? Is there a universal definition? If there is, I'm not sure I'd have qualified. Mom, if you're reading this, thanks for not throwing me out on my ear when I started going out with your son!

The closest I've ever come to experiencing something similar was with my youngest sister, Karen, who lived with us as a teen. I remember meeting her boyfriend - who eventually became her husband - for the first time. What struck me was how I had this deep sense that the two of them were made for one another. It was odd, but I knew that God had brought them to one another; I was certain. Some time later, I was hanging clothes on the line in my backyard, when the two of them came over to tell us that they were expecting a baby. I remember the day very well. I was frustrated that they were in that circumstance... but then I looked into Bry's eyes. Again, I remember seeing something in there that made the inside of me know that he was right for Karen. Whatever it took to love and care for my amazing sister - who had lost her mom in Kindergarten - he had it. Together, they've journeyed together in knowing Jesus. And they're two of the most amazing parents I've ever met. (I learn from them all the time!) They certainly don't have an idyllic and perfect existence; but they are an example to many around them, and their love is genuine and deep. (I still haven't listened to Bruce's message where he refers to their journey... but I will!)

What was Bry's family like? I don't remember thinking about it.. but after a while I called Bry's mom up and we had lunch... to celebrate that we were "sharing" people. It was nice. We ate baked potato soup at Tony Roma's.

When it comes to diversity, we think about cultural or racial differences often... but what about other kinds of diversity? Like diversity in families? What about diverse ways of expression, of responding to community, of handling adversity. Diverse ways of loving, being a friend, parenting, relating. What about the diversity that grows from having many challenges versus very few challenges? Or diversity that comes from being taught about Jesus from the cradle or meeting him on your own Damascus road?

I've been given opportunities to know so many kinds of people over the years, and I am so very thankful for the diversity I've been exposed to. I've had lots of chances to experience lots of things.. some awesome and some heartbreaking. And I think I even appreciate who it has made me.

Saturday, February 14, 2009

house...

Our house is for sale, and we'd love to sell it privately! If you know anyone who is looking for a nice little house with a big lot in Hepburn, send us an email: dvorak.kelly@gmail.com. (potential to build and sell on adjacent lot...)
4 bedrooms, 3 bathrooms, main floor laundry, open layout
possession date - negotiable

Thursday, February 12, 2009

the news...

well, its been a while since we did a little family update... so here goes:

we're all doing good.. loving our crazy life as always. just this week, we've enjoyed great mealtime conversations with Paul, Jamie, Jenna, and Tracy and Kels. While there were great times and wonderful chats every night, a great memory was Jenna informing us that we can only infer that Christ wasn't married; the text doesn't actually TELL us that. hmmm...

Bren is loving coaching hockey. His new fave pastime is playing loud video games with owen. they even got some online membership thing. I just love hearing them laugh together. And their competitiveness is pretty funny for anyone listening!
Syd - 12 going on 16!!- is reading HUGE books now, and I think she stays up way too late. She has some secret system that fools Bren and I when we go check and kiss her at night, we think she's fast asleep and then she goes through these books much faster than any reading we see her doing during waking hours. I think I used to do that. yikes!
owen - likes the new game system he got for Christmas. We returned some things and he had gotten some $$ - so now we have this xbox thingy. We hoped owen and co. would hang out at home more... but the jeschke's are just too cool! I can't blame the boys for hanging out there all the time... I love hanging out there too!!
and my big news is that I am going to be leaving bethany in april. yup - so we're in a totally unexpected and surprising place of wondering what on earth is next? (we're going to go to our fave asian restaurant in S'toon this weekend and just order fortune cookies. We'll let you know what they say... :)

Thursday, February 5, 2009

Hope

.....sharing a glimpse of recent explorations on the theme of HOPEWhat does hope mean? Why is it so important?

Sunday, February 1, 2009

Sitting there being fascinating....


In December, I was looking for something good to read and I took a book off the shelf in my room called 'Hope's Edge'. (authored by Anna and Frances Lappe) I remember buying this book ages ago for about $1 from some second hand shop somewhere... but I didn't pick it up immediately. I'm not completely done yet, but its been inspiring me lots, so I'm sharing a bit today... I can't believe this book was just sitting there on my shelf being fascinating all this time and I waited so long to read it!

Somehow this book seems to be helping me to answer the question of 'why bother?' - as in... "How can my choices have any impact on the world I live in - not just my local community, but the whole globe.. there is so much madness, and I'm just one person.. WHY BOTHER? I can't make a difference anyway "...

But.. my personal choices DO have an impact. I can respond to an economic system that makes wealth a priority at the increasing expense of those who already have the least. (and doesn't seem to have any problem at all with the ongoing pursuit of wealth - doesn't anyone else feel compelled to say ENOUGH!!!????) I can speak out in small ways when I have an opportunity. I can have a social conscience without being obnoxious. (At least, no one has told me I'm obnoxious lately... ) And I can continue to try to make sense of it all, realizing that any awareness I gain can only help and that I don't have to feel entirely helpless. I don't have to embrace the direction or principles of the majority.

Here's my simple start: Consume less. Not because its trendy to simplify, but because we recognize that the principles learned in Economics 101 (If we demand, supply will follow) are very much at work in our world. We North Americans demand stuff at low prices. (Hurray for Walmart, right?). If we stopped demanding so much, supply would respond. And if we were willing to pay fair prices for goods, producers wouldn't be forced to find ways to make everything cheaper at all costs. Shop less.. you could save the world! (How's that for a slogan?)

Does anyone else think its outrageous when our politicians and leaders tell us to consume more to keep the economy strong? Everything is changing.. so.. GO SHOPPING!!! That is our salvation - spending money?? Then we're really sick!!! I know there are global economic reasons to ensure a strong North American Economy... but do we ever stop and say .. hey.. wait a sec... what if we let the structure collapse into a heap of rubble.. then we rebuilt in ways that learned from our former mistakes and were sustainable for the whole world.. ?? I know.. I'm idealistic and uninformed. Forgive me for my idealism and belief that we're more than consumers. Forgive me for thinking that our existence is more about how we care for all of our neighbors than how we can exploit one another. And forgive me for hating the idea of having nothing more to offer than going to the mall or buying a bigger house to store all that stuff I don't need.

Ooopps... back to the book - rant completed... The title 'hope's edge' refers to the many ways that our world is on the edge of hope.. pushing our ability to recover to the very edge of hope. (Global warming as an example). Yet there are stories and people who just defy the norm and do amazing and inspiring things right there 'at the edge of hope'.

"We must warn you though; this kind of hope isn't clean or tidy. Honest hope has an edge. It's messy. It requires that we let go of pat answers, preconceieved formulas, confidence that our sailing will be smooth. Its not a resting point.. honest hope is movement." (from the book's intro)

The first chapter is called 'Maps of the Mind' - and talks about how we get enslaved into thinking the majority perspective. How we become hopeless.... It refers to finding our voices and providing REAL leadership that is creative and innovative and HELPFUL instead. (as opposed to being primarily concerned with preserving the status quo)


How can people be empowered to believe that they can actually DO something? How can a sense of powerlessness be overcome?
.. we need to see the examples regularly. We need to stop the flow of overwhelmingly negative images and messages that we receive from the media. We need to believe that those sporadic feel good stories are more than an occasional occurence, but that THEY are the norm. (My life does demonstrate that, by the way.. I see some very innovative, creative, hopeful people on a regular basis - and they're doing wonderful things. I believe we are far more selfless than any of us give ourselves credit for being)

"we don't see ourselves as creaters and choosers in this world. Our planet in decline is 'just happening'. ... we dont perceive the assumptions which, once in play, silently fuel this destruction of life. As long as we're blind to our own assumptions, other paths are invisible... what we have is all there is." (p20)

"We view ourselves as thinkers.. I've come to see that we're not only thinkers, we're absorbers. We mold our perceptions of reality and of ourselves to conform to the ideas we hold. We absorb ideas in fact WITHOUT thinking." (p21)
Our acceptance of outrageous 'groupthink' behaviour is cited:
-No one among us would choose to let any child die of hunger or preventable diseases. But it happens, thousands of times over, each and every day and we think we're powerless.
-No one among us thinks its okay to make choices that result in permanently destroying plant and animal species crucial to ecosystems all over the world. But it happens, each day and we think we're powerless.
-No one would choose to poke a giant hole in the ozone, and steadily increase the rate of cancer and death. But it has happened, and we think we're powerless.
-No one wants to return to a world where class and status determine everything.. but we don't despair when we read about millionaires who keep accumulating while the working poor can't own property without astronomical debt from moneylenders whose activities are more criminal than commercial. it's all happening... we think it 'is the way it is'.... and we're powerless.

There will likely be more from this book on this blog at some point... the surface has barely been scratched. I've especially enjoyed reading about landless Brazilians who have been equipped to force the government to abide by their own land-return policies by community action, belief in something better... and the local church.

Read more from the authors of Hope's Edge here, or a review of the complete book here.
A closing quote that has been on my mind for so many reasons - especially as I consider my faith: "... private interest is the only immutable point in the human heart."
What do you think?

Thursday, January 29, 2009

The Least of These

If you'd have asked me a month ago what draws me to certain ministries, relationships, people - I'd have likely said something about a sense of compassion or call to 'the least of these' (Mt. 25)


But my trip to Winnipeg as a team leader for an inner city service trip revealed something to me... I am the 'least of these.' I'm drawn to people I can identify with. I'm most comfortable around those who are broken and unashamed, and I'm least comfortable in situations where the expectation is that we all have our act together and we don't let anyone see the cracks in the facade. So, while there's compassion no matter what, its not so much about being drawn to people for missional reasons as it is about looking for people to identify with. It is so freeing to be around people who don't expect certain behaviours and patterns. I love being in that space, and long to create more of those spaces around me. (my kids would love for me to have fewer expectations!!)


There's a theological twist to this revelation; I used to believe God had randomly acted in my life, my sisters lives, because of His love and our need... period. We'd been identified by his spiritual radar system as helpless and needy, so He helped. So, it makes sense that I identified my own offering of compassion and love in a similar way...


Its not so much like that, though.


Jesus was the 'least of these', too. He was also just being with the people who were most like him and not welcomed by those who thought they had it all figured out. And so His presence and action are most obvious in the places where He can identify with broken, rejected people, and they can identify with Him. And its least obvious in places when the priority is on being put together, successful.


Do you want to meet Jesus? Go to the places where what we define as 'success' is least evident. He's there already.